माँ की याद

यहाँ सबको सिर्फ धन-दौलत की भाषा समझ आती है, यहाँ की चिड़िया भी खरीद कर अनाज खाती है।इस शहर में माँ की बहुत याद आती है ।। यहाँ इमारतों की होड़ में सीमेंट में मिल गयी माटी है, यहाँ अमीरी-गरीबी के दृश्य भाँति-भाँति हैं। इस शहर में प्यारी माँ की बहुत याद आती है ।। […]

माँ की याद

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Menstruation: the biggest taboo in the Indian society

In this blog, I thought to write about the most annoying taboo of our society i.e. Periods. How strange it seems, that the thing which is naturally given to us by the supreme power is considered as impure. I really appreciate the modernisation of the Indian culture, but no one can ignore the fact that despite of upgrading of social status here, there are many families who still consider it, a sign of impurity. In India, it’s the biggest taboo until date.
I remember, my maternal grandmother told me once that, when she was young and started to bleed, it was considered an auspicious ceremony and was celebrated with great joy and enthusiasm. In her time, it was a sign that a girl who starts to bleed timely, is reproductively healthy to carry on the generation after marriage. So, going back in her time, I start to think that when this natural process can be celebrated at that time, why can’t we even remove this taboo from our mind at present? When we can actually hope for the change in our thinking? When can we expect this society to be “the biggest taboo free zone”?
“ DON’T VISIT TEMPLES DURING MENSTRUATION”, “DON’T DISCUSS WITH OR GO CLOSE TO ANY MALE MEMBER YOU MEET” , “YOU HAVE GROWN UP NOW , START BEHAVING IN A BETTER WAY” , “KEEP SANITARY PADS HIDDEN AND CARRY THEM IN DARK POLYBAG WHEN YOU BUY THEM” so and so….
These are the instructions given in our Indian society when a girl starts to bleed and become reproductively capable of bearing a child in future. Some of these myths can be accepted but some are hard to implement. With the advancement of knowledge and social environment, things have really changed. Everyone gets aware about this biological process by class 7th or 8th. Moreover, there are special seminars conducted in the school premises regarding the same as well then, why society behaves in such a manner and tries to prevent youngsters from this natural fact?
When we bleed due to injury or wound, the society shows its sympathy but when we bleed naturally, the same society’s perceptions are changed. We neither need the sympathy here, nor the boycotting nature of the society. The society that stands on several genders, female being one of them, and it’s a truth with this gender that need acceptance. We need an open minded thinking, it’s not a crime, and we are not criminals that we need to step up for hiding a natural process. `
I would say the more we will hide, the more people will consider it a shameful act. Instead of considering it, a symbol of impurity, we should start discussing it openly and try to help in case of any problem, adding on to this; we must also engage ourselves in providing sex education to all our young ones. This will bring about a great change in the problems we suffer in our society such as growing population and other issues related to it. It is commonly observed, mothers don’t talk much about it with their daughters or slow down their voices as they feel shy discussing it and vice versa.
So, hereby concluding it, Menstruation should not be considered a taboo it’s a natural process and should be accepted openly by all. It’s high time now to change our narrow thinking and keep the broader view in mind that would help the upcoming generation to engage themselves openly in every stream of life which few of them may lack because of this taboo.

GROW UP,
CHANGE YOUR NARROW VIEW
BREAK THIS TABOO
BE PROUD FOR WHAT YOU ARE
BE PROUD TO WITHSTAND THIS AND SAY
“YES, WE BLEED AND SUFFER,
AND WE ARE NOT ASHAMED TO SAY IT
THERE IS NOTHING TO HIDE,
WE ARE PURE INSIDE AND OUTSIDE“
Natural suffering can’t be considered as impurity by others.

Thank You
Oshin

Fight and Overcome , End in not a solution

In my last blog, I talked about how one can support in order to save one’s life from committing suicide. Moreover I talked about from a person’s perspective, who are already suffering from it and lacks support in all aspects.
In this blog, I will be sharing my view points as parents, siblings, friends, and community members that how they get affected by experiencing a close one committing it. According to W.H.O., suicide is the third most leading cause of death in the age between 15-19years.
We are living in this 21st century, where on one side, people are giving their best to stabilize their lifestyle for present as well as for future , there are many people on the other side who are giving up their most valuable asset i.e. life. We are blessed with the most advanced race on this planet that we often forget while giving up. We should be glad enough for this blessing and must focus on achieving the goals of life under our abilities or beyond and believe in our inner potentials to carry on and face every upcoming difficulty and at last moving on a smooth platform. We should not forget that each one of us here on this beautiful planet carries a goodness to make our life worth living.
Whenever I hear news about suicides, many questions start coming up in my mind. Can one’s failure really decide our upcoming life? Are we dumb enough to end rather than to face and overcome? Do our parents provide with all the essentials so that when it’s our time to reward them with the best we decide to end? Have you ever thought what later its outcomes are?
As talking about an Indian society people actually comment and say “ look , his son/daughter committed suicide, or look at that girl/boy , whose brother /sister committed suicide , so and so ,and its goes on for other connected people as well. It directly means that people who do so are gone but, who are left behind suffers. Before doing so, we must believe in revolving around the world, evolving the best, and never devolving our inner spirit of living a valuable assest.
According to a survey, 20-30% of the suicidal deaths are due to the failure in studies. Recently, it was observed that an IAS officer, Nitin Sangwan, shared his 12th board exam mark sheet, and stated that “the final purpose of education is not scoring marks “. He scored 24 marks, just 1 mark above passing marks yet it didn’t stop him from pursuing higher studies, showing his dedication and finally fulfilling his ambition. If he would have taken less scored marks as his weakness and stopped himself for working on it, he couldn’t have reached where presently he is. So this was definitely his message to all the youngsters who think that scoring marks are everything, compete with their fellow mates for the same and when they couldn’t do well they abandon their life.
According to another survey, around 40%-50% of the suicidal deaths are due to the destroying of a relationship and remaining is due to various other reasons. So again putting up a question, Are external factors i.e. Any person with whom u don’t even share any blood relation has full right to take your life away? And people with whom you have a close relationship and share a good blood bond too, you easily leave them in a situation of daze. Do give a thought on this.
So, now concluding the same, I want to say appreciate and enjoy with the people you have, embrace the love and affection of your loved ones and specially who brought you In the beautiful world where you have so much to adore now and cherish the same forever.

ALWAYS REMEMBER:
FIRST START LOVING YOURSELF ONLY THEN EXPECT OTHERS TO LOVE YOU BACK.
START LOVING and STOP QUITING, END IS NOT AN OPTION .
Always say one thing to your inner self:
“I AM A WARRIOR , AND I WILL FIGHT LIKE A WARRIOR”

Thank you
Oshin

STOP JUDGING AND START SUPPORTING

TOPIC: DEPRESSION (WE NEED SUPPORT TO OVERCOME WITH IT)
Depression – This word has various definitions given by psychologist, counsellors and educationists etc .
But According to me, its basically the state of mind in which the thinking process isn’t in our control and goes beyond that, which makes the person negative in all aspects. These negative aspects can include physical, emotional, mental, societal aspects etc.
It’s not necessary that a person who seems to be happier is actually the same, just because they don’t show or come up with their real view of suffering from some problem, depressed thoughts and environment. May be that person feels so, when alone, or may be, when he/she receives any bad signal from the environment and keep recreating the thought process of the negative stimulus received and feel depress for it.
This is where the problem arises that is recreation of a bad signal received by us and start thinking about it continuously.
Let’s not go too far and take a simple example. Let’s suppose,
A child who is studying in class 10th or 12th starts receiving the stimulus of getting higher percentage in his/her board exams. What does this continuous receiving of same vibes with every second person he/she meets do? All of us will have different answers to it. Some can say it would motivate the ward of giving the best in exams, some can say it would help the child to focus more and not to take these exams as a casual ones. But does anyone of us really think that just by saying a simple sentence repeatedly it can actually motivate the ward in wrong direction of committing suicidal attempts too, if he/she fails to withstand the expectations of their surrounding people. Exceptions are always there no doubt but few students are there who take seniors or their peer groups comments seriously and keep thinking for the same , leaving any hope for better future and just decide to finish their life at the very next moment………… JUST END UP THEIR LIFE!!
I have seen many parents or other people too , showing a sort of grief when some other student attempt a suicide and say “ baccho ko zyada force nahi krna chahie jo kismat me hoga ban jajynge”. But the main twist in their thinking comes when they force their own kids to study harder and score good.
Where does their casual thinking go when talking about their own kids? Do they ever think from a child’s perspective? Do they ever ask their child’s interest? Do they ever talk to them as a friend who needs support in their growing years? The support here I am talking about is not only the support in studies. Apart from this , I guess we need support in each and every step of our life be it in choosing profession ,in adulthood , before and after marriages, or in other various fields of life as well.
Isn’t it strange that suicidal attempts are being rising at such a high pace???
What I generally believe the reason is, people find ending their lives much easier than surviving with the harsh realities of the world or facing the bad vibes from surroundings. I can say the level of support one needs in his/her depressed time period is not upto the mark because I think people judge and comment more and rarely support.
For this too, I would take an another example here;
If an unmarried young boy or girl commits suicide, the very first question that pops in the mind of Indian society is “affair tha ya affair hoga”. Is it the only thing left for giving up this precious life? Can’t a person do so because he / she lacks support?
And even If I say “affair tha and suicide kia” then too I clearly mention the society is somehow responsible for it because ultimately we are the ones who judge without even thinking about a person’s mental health who is already suffering and facing so much. This simply states that if he/she had it, trusted someone but could not make it end beautifully then, that person has no right to stay back in society? Right??? And If the person stays too, all he/she would receive is bad vibes related to the past from his/her surroundings that would leave him more depressed and will lead to the finishing of the best gift from God. This is what I mentioned before as well, “ lack of support”.
BETTER TO SUPPORT, THAN TO REGRET LATER
Steps you should take while dealing with a depressed person may include:
Providing friendly environment.
Try to take those point out from the sufferer because of which he feels the most suffocated.
Stop judging , commenting and making fun of people who are facing so.
Let the person speak whatever his/her heart speaks out. Even if it’s something you feel is inappropriate just ignore at that moment and try to figure out the solution to it.
Never ever leave that person alone. Provide them a healthy environment which can make up their mood to some extent. For Ex. If a person used to like travelling and now he started disliking it in his depressing time then, his supporters should take that person for outing. If not much I am sure that will help him in bringing a change in himself/herself and slowly the person will come out of his/her difficult phase if constant support will be provided.
Most importantly, we say, we should stay away from negativity and adopt a path of positive lifestyle but it happens in such time that people becomes so negative and with same negativity they response too. So, in such case, instead of running away, we must take measurements to transform their negative lifestyle into a positive one. It will be beneficial for all the connected people there.
As just a little support will save a precious life.
Thank you
Oshin